| The 2003 documentary
"I Can't Marry You," narrated by host Betty
DeGeneres, explores same-sex marriage issues through the
personal experiences of twenty gay and lesbian couples
who have been in long-term relationships of 10-55+ years.
Their poignant and powerful testimonies put faces to,
and actual examples of, the painful impact of discrimination
on our daughters and sons, sisters and brothers, parents,
aunts and uncles, loyal friends, coworkers and tax paying
This one-hour program features
The twenty couples, their parents and children; Evan Wolfson,
the prominent civil rights attorney of Freedom to Marry;
John J. McNeill, Former Jesuit Priest and author of "The
Church and the Homosexual;" Adam Aronson, of Lambda
Legal; and the leaders of the New York Christian Coalition.
Filmmaker, Catherine Gray created this documentary
to educate her own gay constituency about the importance
of having these rights and to show us that gay and lesbian
couples can have healthy, committed long-term relationships.
She believes that education is the only way to affect
change and win this civil right.
Gray shot the film in large and small cities across
the country, including: New York City; Saugatuck, Michigan;
Asheville, North Carolina; San Francisco; Fort Lauderdale
and West Palm Beach, Florida. She felt it was important
to represent diverse couples that vary considerably
by age, ethnicity, religious and educational backgrounds.
Our film debuted in New York City at the GLBT Community
Center to a sellout crowd.
"I Can't Marry You" would not have been possible
without the support of many individuals and organizations
who gave their support, including: Human Rights Campaign,
GLAD and Marriage Equality. Unfortunately, until the
laws in our country change, marriage for same-sex couples
is still a dream.